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30 April 2011

The Art of Miscommunication

Why is it that the people that we talk to the most can be those we communicate with the least? I feel like I am a perpetual communicator: always talking things out, brainstorming, discussing... Whereas others answer vaguely, withhold information, refuse to participate, etc. Is the lack of communication intentional? Or do they really think simple and inadequate is enough to keep a conversation going or find a solution? Is it just a lack of effort? Maybe a general disinterest?

Whatever it may be, I encounter it daily and it drives me crazy. When having a conversation we should be able to talk about the subject, bring up specifics as needed, uncover or discover things we may not have known. It doesn't require too much effort. Instead, I'm asking question after question trying to drag answers out of people.

And as much as I hate to say it, my areas of miscommunication seem to be related to gender. I'm never one to stereotype based on sex, however gender is a different story. We're all socialized to think boys and girls act differently, excel in different areas, and have different characteristics. Girls learn early on they are supposed to be talkers, problem solvers and mediators. Boys are the doers. So despite the fact that gendered stereotypes are less extreme, these subtle differences remain and make communication between men and women a difficult task.


16 April 2011

Lace 'Em Up!

I'm making a New Years resolution in April. It may be a bit unorthodox but that's how I roll. I plan to run as many charitable races as I can moving forward. The local 5ks are fun, but I've recently graduated to bigger races. A few weeks ago I ran the Cooper River Bridge Run in Charleston with 40,000 people. It was incredible! The energy and excitement was enough to keep anyone going, not to mention I loved being out there with my friends doing something to benefit both myself and my community. My registration fee went toward the American Cancer Society.

Cooper River Bridge, Charleston SC

Pre Run


Land Rover Hilton Head will be sponsoring the below races that I will be participating in:


May 15 - Low Country Trail Run
June 25 - Run Bike Run & 5K of the Lowcountry
July 4th - 26th Firecracker 5000
Oct 9th - Buzzard Island Adventure Run
Oct 23rd - 20th Hilton Head Bridge Run 5K & 10K
Oct 29th - Bluffton Zombie Mile


Throw in a Beach Bum Triathlon, maybe a Turtle Trot and I'm gonna be in great shape!


Now I just need to train.


Post 10k Celebration



Who Doesn't Like a Good Parable?

In my attempts to step up my frugality a notch, I visited a thrift shop in search of a few items I needed. I'd much rather re-use something than waste the resources on producing a new, more expensive one. In reality I probably spent more money that day than if I hadn't walked through the door of Off Island Thrift because I probably wouldn't have shopped anywhere else. Still, there's something exciting about circling the crowded shelves of a second-hand shop, weaving through the retirees and looking for that diamond in the rough. We all dream of finding that one item, unique and exactly what we needed, skipping up to the counter and happily paying a few bucks for it. I had no such luck.

The furniture selection was dismal (I was looking for a bookshelf), the bedding and mattress area is still giving me nightmares, and one can only have so many chachkis. So I spent the majority of my time perusing the book section. Used books are an absolute favorite of mine! After purchasing almost all of my books second-hand in college I've made it a habit. They're cheaper, sometimes you find interesting or insightful notes, and there's something nostalgic about reading a book with ruffled pages that has obviously been enjoyed time and time again.

One of the books I came home with is a parable about coping with change. Who Moved My Cheese, by Spencer Johnson, is an adorable tale about two mice and two humans living in a maze searching for cheese. Occasionally their cheese supply gets moved and they must search all corners of the maze (even the dark and scary ones) to find the new supply. They must adapt and use their instincts.

At only 96 pages (several with illustrations), the book is a quick read with an easy message: In order to reach you goals (cheese), you have to be willing to change. You have to go out and search for it, put forth some effort and run through the maze. You can't be afraid of trying different things and leaving your comfortable little corner. Only then will you be able to reap the benefits.

With such an easy message I feel frustrated that I regularly encounter people who simply can't adopt this philosophy. They like the way they do things, they have a routine, they've been doing it for twenty years...blah, blah, blah. It's impossible to grow while resisting change and new ideas. Becoming complacent with your dated ways can be very destructive.

Try something new. If it doesn't workout and you find yourself falling, pick yourself up, dust off your knees and keep going. Isn't this something we all learned as children? Applying it to our professional and personal lives is just as simple. It just takes an open mind.

As you can see, I found this book very relatable to my life. And in several ways: professionally, personally, even physically. I definitely recommend it. I found mine for just $3. Click Here to find it on Amazon.com.


Although I also walked away from the thrift store with a Nicholas Sparks novel, I'm suddenly in search for other books that will help me professionally. On my Amazon wish list: The One Minute Manager, The Go-Giver, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and Coaching Sales People into Sales Champions.

One last note: the mice have jogging suits and running shoes. It's adorable.